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The truth is when we’re dealing with loss, either recent or long ago, we have a broken heart, not a broken head. We need to say what we’re feeling, and communicate the conflicted thoughts and emotions we might be harboring. We need someone who will really listen, not give us advice, not judge or try to make us feel better. The first step to healing a broken heart is to express our feelings.
…and first step to recovering from any life-altering losses
It’s listening. Listening―the gift we give to each other; listening―the healing power within each of us. It’s a natural part of our everyday communications. And the more we use it, become aware of it,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and perfect it, the more power it has to make a difference in our life and work.
Society, our family, and friends give us messages like don’t feel bad, replace the loss, keep busy, and with time you’ll feel better. But, these comments don’t help―they don’t get to the “heart” of the matter, and they aren’t true statements or solutions for someone who’s grieving. In fact, sometimes they downright hurt us more.
Unresolved grief from the death of a loved one, a painful breakup, loss of trust, loss of health, loss of a job, or any major loss can leave us depleted, depressed, and passionless.
Listening without thinking, eliminates our judgmental thoughts. If the person speaking understands that the listener is not judging them, they feel safe to tell the truth. Try it out. Think of a person in your life that you can tell almost anything to. Isn’t part of the reason you feel that way because you don’t feel judged by them?
Grief is the normal and natural reaction to any major loss. Loss is a part of living and a great many of us are facing losses due to health and financial issues, deaths of family and friends, and painful relationship breakups, whether personal or in business.
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When we listen with a blank mind, no agenda, just focused listening, we can hear all of what a person is saying. We experience the message that goes beyond the words. We hear the feelings beneath what is spoken. When we have no other purpose than to truly understand, the truth can show up.
So, what is the silent healer and the first step to recovering from life-altering loss?
Eileen Joyce
Certified Coach and Grief Recovery Specialist
Eileenjoyce.com
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For those of us who want to help ourselves and others going through tough times, telling the truth about what we’re feeling to someone who knows how to listen,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and listening to others’ expressions of truth about what they’re feeling, is the silent healer for ourselves and others―the secret first step to recovery. It is something we all can give to others and ask others to give to us.
We talk about the loss, but not many people want to hear what we’re really feeling. Grief, the emotions that result from loss,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], is one of the most off-limits topics of conversation. Yet loss is a part of living.
Hints:
? It takes no particular expertise, although with awareness and practice you can get really good at it.
? It’s not hard to do, except when you’re thinking about something else (which is most of the time!).
? We love it when someone gives it to us.
? I mentioned it in an earlier paragraph.
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