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Fear can be our friend. Its role is to keep us safe. Healthy fear keeps us from getting too close to the edge of a tall building. It reminds us to plan for a rainy day. But when fear of change keeps us from taking the risks involved with pursuing our dreams, trying something new or meeting someone new, it becomes a thief who steals opportunities and unforgettable moments. When fear turns into panic, it paralyzes us and in that instant, life becomes hard [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], confusing and we can feel very alone.
Human beings tend to live in a paradox when it comes to change. So often we hear others or ourselves say that we are afraid of it. Many of us are taught at a young age to make choices in our lives that will give us security. We go to school, get a degree, choose a life partner with whom we can build a safe and secure future.
1. "This, too, shall pass." This is my brown paper bag I blow into when fear has my close to hyperventilating. I use this like a mantra, reminding myself that no matter what is coming up or what it is I must work through, things will not be like this forever. I also use this in good times to remind myself to really be present and enjoy the moment.
Given that change in life is inevitable and unavoidable, how can we transform fear of change into excitement? What would our lives look like if we looked at change as a welcome catalyst for growth? What if somehow we could find opportunity in every change? My three favorite tools for this are:
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Yet even those evolutions, from high school to university grad, from student to professional, from single to being in a committed relationship, buying a home [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], having children ~ each of these steps toward “security” involve change. Every one of those moments represents a crossroads we must navigate. Life IS change.
When we transform fear into excitement, it fuels us and we are no longer paralyzed. We are in action and living from a place of personal power.
Considers this…if roller coasters were built straight and flat on one level with no twists or turns, no vertical climbs and falls, they would not be exciting. If we knew as a child who our life partner would be, the process of finally meeting that person would not be exciting. If we could see what was around the next corner, would we even bother to go outside?
2. Connecting with my core values. I do a check-in to identify what core values the change might actually fulfill in some way. For example, as a lifelong athlete, I have taken a lot of risks. How does this change give me a chance to move out of my comfort zone and take a risk? Instead of being in fear of the change, I look at how embracing it will support my ongoing growth and my ability to keep moving toward my larger goals.
3. Identifying my mission statement. For me, my mission statement is what fuels me no matter matter how tired, overwhelmed or afraid I may be. I am committed to helping others uncover their brilliance and lead extraordinary lives. I want to guide people through transitions or grief recovery giving them tools and resources to move through with awareness and grace. I use this as my touchstone when fears come up. This mission connects me to something bigger than myself, bigger than my fears and reminds me it's not about me.
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