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Follow this syntax to create a "becoming statement:" "I AM BECOMING MORE _______ EVERY MOMENT." Fill in the blank with whatever quality you would like more of in your life.
Create your own "becoming statement"
Why does a "becoming statement" work?
"I AM BECOMING:" The voice in the back of my head rebels if I try to say I have something when I don't. But that critical voice CAN accept the idea of "becoming" something. Because the word "becoming" implies a gradual process, it reduces the fear of change. Jumping head-first into something new? That's scary. Dipping my toe in and feeling the water temperature, then slowly moving into the water,nike jordan 23, giving myself time to adjust? That, I can handle.
For best results, follow these rules for choosing a quality to use in this statement:
- Choose positive words. Don't say "I am becoming less broke." Say, "I am becoming more financially secure."
- Choose words that have emotional meaning to you. Intellectually, the phrase "I am becoming more self-actualized" means something to me, but my gut doesn't really have an emotional meaning for "self-actualized." However,Air Jordan 23, my gut DOES have a meaning for the word "centered" because I've spent years doing centering exercises, so I have an emotional memory of being centered. Similarly, choose only a word that is emotionally meaningful to you.
- Choose words that have emotional meanings that are not ambivalent to you. Because of my past history, I have a serious love-hate relationship with the word "responsibility." If I chose to tell myself, "I am becoming more responsible," I might self-sabotage my efforts to change due to my ambivalent emotions. Choose a word to describe your chosen attribute that has ONLY POSITIVE connotations to you.
One of my favorite authors, Cheri Huber, tells us in her book, "Be The Person You Want To Find," "One process does not lead to another. Wanting leads to wanting. Having leads to having. Wanting does not lead to having." This explains the mechanics behind affirmations.
Thus, through the very technique I am using to change myself, I create inner resistance... and don't change. So, if wanting leads to wanting, and having leads to having, but saying I have something when I don't feel like I have it can create resistance… what can bridge that gap?
"MORE:" Using the word "more" is a way to tell ourselves that we already have the quality we wish to develop, without triggering our internal "voice of resistance." Can I say that I am centered right now, or that I am peaceful every moment? Not always. Can I say "SOMETIMES I feel centered,AJF 20 Shoes," or "SOMETIMES I feel peaceful"? Even my inner critic has to concede that yes, I do have these qualities sometimes… although perhaps not as consistently as I would like to have them. In a "becoming statement," when I use the word "more," I identify to myself that I'm not mov
Let's look at each part of this statement to explain why a "becoming statement" may be more effective than an affirmation when it comes to changing our inner beliefs.
Affirmations are statements we tell ourselves to change a belief or develop a quality within us. Affirmations are to be stated as if they are happening now, as if they already exist. For example, if I want to increase my confidence, I am supposed to tell myself, "I am self-confident." This makes sense: after all, if I told myself, "Someday, I am going to be self confident," I would be reinforcing that right now I don't feel self-confident. Unless I state the quality AS IF I have it now, I am trying to turn "wanting" into "having."
Here's what I have found that works for me, and what I would like to invite you to try as well: Becoming Statements.
However, if I affirm to myself that I am self-confident when I don't feel confident, a little voice in the back of my head pipes up and says, "Are you NUTS? We don't have that! If we HAD that, we wouldn't be STATING that! No one who is self-confident states 'I am self confident'. They just DO IT, not talk about it."
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